I was trying to explain to my therapist what it was like seeing you guys. It’s so different from my experience with one therapist in the room, she said. It’s something like Peter’s experience holds the structure and Tamar dances in and around it. That big heart you have on the floor made from wood, it seems to vibrate all the time and that is like this room and Tamar, radiating heart.
When we heard that we felt the delight of recognition, and then sought out metaphors that resonated. In Chinese astrology Peter is an Earth Ox and Tamar a Water Ox. This fits even our shared love of images with water coursing over rocks in a river.
“In the complementary interest, values, life experiences. Though we are at different stages of our lives and careers, there is a powerful complementarity that manifest in the between. (Those words with links will take you pages that resonate with us.)
Let’s Walk – neither of us can dance Tango Nueva but our body sense of the walk with couples reflects the dance we are playing in the room – a flexible exchange of leading, pacing and following. It is a held space in which we enter, interrupt and redirect the complex dance and disconnecting footwork of couples stuck in their distressing dance pattern. Susan Johnson calls these cyclical steps demon dances or protest polka.