Road blocks to intimacy

In a road block or core impasse, both partners are guarding their vulnerabilities, and acting and reacting from their survival positions. This is what makes the impasse so heated, confusing, and intense. Road blocks or impasses at the core of an intimate relationship...

How to avoid connection and intimacy

The Rules For Avoiding Intimacy don’t talk never show your feelings always be pleasant always be right never argue make others guess what you want keep busy and keep the TV/computer on. David Gershaw To that list I add the single most powerful thing you can do...

Compassion fatigue

Bearing witness to loss or trauma We shield our heart with an armour woven out of very old habits of pushing away pain and grasping at pleasure. When we begin to breathe in (our) pain instead of pushing it away, we begin to open our hearts to what’s unwanted....