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Diagnosis I have put this section last because I think there are bigger issues than diagnosis – those of character, morality, community and other pre-requisites of a human life. Some readers call me and ask for confirmation of a diagnosis of their partner whom I […]

Quick guide to characteristics of person struggling with narcissism Here is a list of some likely behaviours of a narcissistic parent, from ‘Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grownup’s Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents’ (2001) by Nina Brown retrieved from angriesout.co The book by […]

Description of narcissism in an intimate relationship Retrieved from angel fire.com 26/10/05 If you get a chill up or down your spine while reading these and thinking of your boss, partner or parent – your body knows! Having had that confronting experience some of my […]

Feel-good consumer wants are narcissistic ‘needs’ They are fundamental to national economic health and ultimately to the loss of habitat. They are elevated to magisterial levels by the therapy/personal development/litigation industry looking after your inner child’s ‘truth’, developing your health and happiness and protecting your […]

Psychopaths make confident, sometimes charming and always twisted villains, for example: Eric Theodore Cartman; Dorian Grey; Captain Hook; the Wicked Witch of the West and Gilderoy Lockhart. Some of these villains are eerie psychopaths like Hannibal Lecter and the computer from A Space Odyssey, HAL. […]

Those with NPD have a noxious self-esteem – taking the glory no matter what another’s contribution to a shared task. This tends to reduce the other’s willingness to stay open and engaged until there is some recognition that this theft has occurred. After a contrite […]

Without empathy no relationship can fill the poverty of a narcissist’s inner life. Without reciprocity intimacy perishes. I believe the truth of these observation are self-evident. Neither can offspring to whom they are profoundly disrespectful, fill that void. A sense of security derives from being […]

Empathy is the key to intimacy and to power sharing in relationship Empathy is most likely disabled to varying degrees in those with severe personality disorders. The loose screw is in the limbic system of the brain, but that doesn’t make NPD a disease or […]

Nietzsche observed that a society ruled by priests needed sin, because sin is the “handle” and grip for power. Szasz indicated a similar function of mental disorders in the psychiatric industry. In my experience, people identifying with BPD are NOT untreatable, difficult patients rather they […]

Balancing self interest with concern for others The struggle to find that balance, to lose it, find it and lose it again is normal and healthy. Confusion about where I end and you begin is a boundary problem of response-ability. Where the boundary resides with […]