Please start the new year with a resolution to repair whatever remains unresolved from the last two years of weirdness. I like this article from psych central for an understanding of what couple therapy offers.
These goals for example,
Deepen knowledge and understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship.
Structure your communications to allow each to feel safe enough to empathically connect.
Identify one another’s fears and know what each needs to feel safe in the relationship.
Make distinctions between making requests versus demands, sharing versus venting, connecting versus complaining.
Talk together and listen in a way that each feels accepted, validated and understood.
Identify one another’s triggers and defense strategies.
Examine how wounds in childhood effect how each currently relates in your couple relationship.
Identify and replace limiting beliefs or judgments with ones that energize you to co-create a mutually enriching relationship.
Discover and embrace disowned, repressed or rejected parts of yourself that do not allow you to feel safe enough to fully love and honor yourself.
Identify limiting subconscious scripts and beliefs that block communications and cause reactivity and defensiveness.
Find balance between yearnings to be loved versus be accepted and valued as a unique contributer.
Understand what you need to feel loved and clearly articulate that to your partner.
Identify and replace old habits, defenses and coping strategies with enriching ones.
Understand distinctions between healthy versus unhealthy expressions of anger.
Rediscover the romance and the fun in your relationship.
And they come with a ⚠️
Couples therapy is a proven effective environment to get a couple back on track, out of fear-patterns to love-and-safety ones!
It comes with a warning, however. It is for the courageous and strong, for those invested in their own growth and the other’s.
The process calls each to stretch self—inside. It requires self-study, honest self-reflection, and raw integrity to engage in feeling your feelings, becoming aware of your thoughts, and exploring childhood to discover how old wounds may impact your present potential. No matter how challenging, you both stretch — knowing this is key to harvesting the benefits of your own emotional fulfillment.
And you keep stretching, knowing that, because life is a journey of learning, it’s in your highest benefit.