If your relationship is in trouble…
A couple therapy intensive can make a big shift – it may be life-changing and transformative. It’s an opportunity for a couple intent on healing to deeply clear unresolved issues – to unblock and to build new ways of relating without the fog of everyday life intruding.
Make the commitment to heal
Each intensive program is unique, customized to best fit a couple who are mutually intent on repair. It is typically three hours of sessions per day for up to five weekdays, preferably with a weekend break in the middle. The non-residential retreat intensive is held in a beautiful and relaxed environment in Mullumbimby. My colleague Tamar Ben-Hur brings her wisdom to the process, and together we provide a space to let go of day-to-day concerns and focus on transforming your relationship.
Many couples are at breaking point when they come to an intensive. Some are already living apart. They say this is their last chance to mend and renew a good long term relationship. I would prefer it were not that late in the day but that is the way we are. We just go on adjusting, turning ourselves inside out, until there is no alternative but to commit a serious block of time to an overhaul.
Others come as part of a healing time dedicated to each other – sometimes before or after an addition or loss to the family or an impending major life change.
Rarely, new couples come as part of their engagement or honeymoon process. That to me is the wisest time, as prevention is much less costly than repair.
The Retreat Intensive: A three to five day non-residential program. Each day consists of a three hour integrative couple therapy and coaching session in Mullumbimby. For some couples taking a weekend break between weekday sessions may enable deeper integration of the process. But that is not always so.
Post-intensive follow up: Face-to-face, online or phone sessions as required.
Each session with both Peter and Tamar costs $300 per hour. For three hour sessions over a four day intensive costs under $4000. Some couples need less time than that and some need more. As far as is possible they are flexible with those arrangements.
The intensive does not include transport, meals or accommodation, but nearby Byron Bay is an internationally renowned holiday destination providing vacation, recreation and cuisine alternatives to suit all tastes and budgets. The Northern Rivers NSW region is famously interesting and diverse, and many couples take the opportunity to extend their stay and deepen their connection in this vibrant area. If you are a visitor to the area accommodation, food and transport on a budget is around $1750 per week in the Byron Bay area. Accommodation and restaurants are also available in Mullumbimby, Bangalow and Brunswick Heads.
As a comparison, a five day intensive costs about the same as a week in Bali for two, or a 7-stop round the world ticket, or two dental root canal treatments.
Divorce can add 10 years to the working lives of adults, as they battle to re-establish the wealth they had in married life. The majority of happily married adults expect to retire in their mid to late 60s, while divorcees expect to work well past 75. Why pay divorce lawyers to hurt you when you can pay someone to help you?
The Byron Bay area is very accessible by road or air. Brisbane, the closest capital city, is a one and a half hour drive away and the nearest airports are a half hour drive to either Gold Coast Coolangatta (international) or Byron/Ballina (domestic).