Category Archive for: ‘Relationships’

  • How Gottman predicts separation/divorce 7

    THE END DRAWS NEAR “When a marriage gets to the point where the couple have rewritten their history, when their minds and bodies make it virtually impossible to communicate and repair their current problems, it is almost bound to fail. They find themselves constantly on […]

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  • Family business-owning couples 2

    WORK-LOVE BOUNDARIES Because copreneurs derive satisfaction for both work and love needs from the same person, the potential distress they face in the grey zone between home and work is greater than that of dual career couples. As a consequence of the multiple roles and […]

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  • Family business-owning couples 1

    Nearly half of my clients have been family business-owning couples. They range from one paid employee to around a hundred. From a couple who mortgaged their own and their parents’ houses in a startup venture with a unique product that paid off; to those entering […]

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  • Insidious impact on victim of infidelity (financial, sexual, emotional)

    A pivotal article about the impact of big lies in a relationship, this one from The New York Times. Here’s an excerpt. They were people who had suddenly discovered that their life, as they knew it, was based on a long-term falsehood. They were people […]

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  • The push-pull relationship

    There is an excellent article on Huffington Post about this pattern. Here is an excerpt. The pulling away typically happens when the relationship seems to be going exceptionally well — usually right after that interim of deep and meaningful connection. This occurs because the intimacy […]

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  • Narcissistic PD part 14 – on line resources

    Diagnosis I have put this section last because I think there are bigger issues than diagnosis – those of character, morality, community and other pre-requisites of a human life. Some readers call me and ask for confirmation of a diagnosis of their partner whom I […]

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  • How Gottman predicts separation/divorce 6

    THE SIXTH SIGN: BAD MEMORIES “When a relationship gets subsumed in negativity, it’s not only the couple’s present and future life together that are put at risk. Their past is in danger, too. Couples who are deeply entrenched in a negative view of their spouse […]

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  • How Gottman predicts separation/divorce 5

    THE FIFTH SIGN: FAILED REPAIR ATTEMPTS “While it takes time for the four horsemen and the flooding that comes in their wake to overrun a marriage, divorce can so often be predicted by listening to a single conversation between newlyweds. By analysing any disagreement a […]

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  • Narcissistic PD part 13 – characteristics

    Quick guide to characteristics of person struggling with narcissism Here is a list of some likely behaviours of a narcissistic parent, from ‘Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grownup’s Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents’ (2001) by Nina Brown retrieved from The book by […]

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  • Emotional Safety – pre-condition for successful couple therapy

    Emotional Safety: A Cornerstone For Healing by Linda Marks. I retrieved this article and quoted in full from on 15.09.15 “While multitudes of theories and techniques to facilitate healing abound, in nearly fifteen years of clinical practice I have found one element to be […]

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  • How Gottman predicts separation/divorce 4

    THE FOURTH SIGN: BODY LANGUAGE “Even if you could not hear the conversation between a stonewaller and the spouse, you would be able to predict their divorce simply by looking at the stonewaller’s physiological readings. When couples are monitored for bodily changes during a tense […]

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  • Lucy & Bart 3

    FLOODING This fictional couple have been struggling with self-limiting interactions for about six years. Mostly they have a great time with each other. Have similar senses of humour and share most of their leisure activities. Apart from his choice of franchise, they share many core […]

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