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  • Why you will marry the wrong person

    A provocative statement to raise your awareness and bring some humility into your love life. To soften the edges of certainty about a new relationship or about your long term committed relationship. Here’s the Anthony de Botton video about this.

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  • Rapid or premature ejaculation

    She was in the kitchen preparing to boil eggs for breakfast. He walked in; She turned and said, “You”ve got to make love to me this very moment.” His eyes lit up and he thought, “This is my lucky day.” Not wanting to lose the […]

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  • Do some men not want to grow up?

    I put this question to a friend the other night who I met myself on OKCupid and who is four years my senior. His response smacked me right upside the head. “Well, in my experience, women don’t tend to be as enthusiastic about sex once […]

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  • On vulnerability part 3.

    Quotations on: Vulnerability Where we have strong emotions, we’re liable to fool ourselves. Carl Sagan We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. Walter Anderson To love at all is […]

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  • Trauma fiction – “The Dream Life Of Debris”

    Twelve-year-old Paul loves to walk the train tracks of suburban Adelaide. One day as he’s walking with his faithful Jack Russell, he witnesses something he doesn’t understand. He buries the memory deep in his subconscious, choosing instead to dwell on dreams. As an adult, his […]

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  • Individual therapy sessions

    I am interested in how we relate to our internal experiences. It is like a matrix of family relationships inside ourselves. Sometimes it could be likened to a couple: a top dog and an underdog; a part that criticizes us and a part that shuts […]

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  • On vulnerability part 1.

    It always seemed strange to me that the things we admire in men, kindness and generosity, openness, honesty, understanding and feeling are the concomitants of failure in our system. And those traits we detest, sharpness, greed, aquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and self-interest are the traits of […]

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  • Steps to ending a relationship

    I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. Joseph Addison Try some or all of these […]

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  • Live life out loud

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  • I had to ask my partner to be kind to me

    This is the beginning of an article from a series The Guardian is running on the experience of a fragmenting relationship that leads to divorce. “I have many moments that come to mind if I try to pinpoint when, exactly, it was obvious that my […]

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  • Couple time ideas part 4

    Many a marriage expert (or possibly your own preconceived notions) would have you believe that you need to spend huge blocks of so-called quality time working on Life’s Most Important Relationship to keep it going strong. For most of us living in the real world, […]

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  • Couple time ideas part 3

    Let your children know that you two need time alone together. Tell them they can knock on your closed bedroom door only if there is blood. INSTRUCTIONS One way of handling the number of ideas in these four blog posts is to print or write […]

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