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  • The 24/42 relationship

    Usually this age difference is an older man with a younger woman or man. I have chosen this gap as a title because a couple with this difference are at least one generation apart. I have worked with a number of clients whose parents were […]

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  • On vulnerability part 1.

    It always seemed strange to me that the things we admire in men, kindness and generosity, openness, honesty, understanding and feeling are the concomitants of failure in our system. And those traits we detest, sharpness, greed, aquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and self-interest are the traits of […]

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  • Couple time ideas part 4

    Many a marriage expert (or possibly your own preconceived notions) would have you believe that you need to spend huge blocks of so-called quality time working on Life’s Most Important Relationship to keep it going strong. For most of us living in the real world, […]

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  • Couple time ideas part 3

    Let your children know that you two need time alone together. Tell them they can knock on your closed bedroom door only if there is blood. INSTRUCTIONS One way of handling the number of ideas in these four blog posts is to print or write […]

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  • Family business-owning couples 4

    DEAL BREAKER Number 2 – Intimate competition In their early 30’s Kerry and Pat fired each other up at the beginning of their wine business. As the enterprise grew their natural competitiveness spurred them on to more innovative and more efficient solutions. It worked for […]

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  • Couple time ideas part 1

    Next time you kiss, pause, look into your partner’s eyes remembering what it was like when you first met. Touch his/her face. Trace his/her lips with your finger. Slowly bring your lips to theirs first gently kissing his/her upper lip, then lower lip. Embrace your […]

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  • How Gottman predicts separation/divorce 8

    MEN AND WOMEN REALLY ARE DIFFERENT “In 85 percent of marriages, the stonewaller is the husband. The reason lies in our gender. “Any nursing mother can tell you that the amount of milk she produces is affected by how relaxed she feels, which is related […]

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  • Narcissistic PD part 12 – parenting

    Question: After 10 years of pain and frustration, I’ve come to learn that my husband suffers from NPD. I’ve decided not to leave him in the short-term because our children are quite young and sharing custody with him feels akin to sending them off with […]

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  • Fair fighting part 2

    Principles of fair fight, constructive arguments

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  • Relationship success part 3 – diversity & plasticity

    Nature’s method for success Nature’s habit and her measure of success is diversity. Diversity is difference. Humans are rarely comforted by difference, yet they crave it. Even identical twins are not identical (different fingerprints too) and no two siblings can ever grow up in the […]

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  • Relationship success part 1 – family

    Family is the only place that most of us discover life’s single most important lesson of unselfish love. Family love is like the wind: instinctive, raw, fragile, beautiful, at times angry, but always unstoppable. it is our collective breath. It is the world’s greatest force….It […]

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